In my work as a psychologist, I have found that families often come to my office with a focus on one child that is "the problem." This child usually doesn't "fit in" with the other family members, acts differently than the parents are used to, or the parents just have more difficulty getting this child to meet their expectations. More often than not, this child is not mentally ill, but is suffering from another condition . . . . uniqueness. The very uniqueness that God blesses a child with can also cause frustration, to themselves and their family.

So, as parents and educators, what do we do about children we just don't understand? First, I suggest to seek to increase in understanding your child's uniqueness. Proverbs 2 says that "the Lord gives wisdom and from His mouth comes knowledge and understanding" (v.6) and that this "wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul." (v. 10). Parents can find peace and even pleasure in learning about their child's gifts, strengths, and weaknesses!

To start your investigation into your child's uniqueness, I suggest looking at their personality. Dr. Gary Smalley and Dr. John Trent have developed a personality inventory that does a great job in describing the four basic personality types. I have slightly modified this inventory to better describe what might be seen in children. I will address each personality style in the next few weeks. If today's doesn't accurately describe your child, stay tuned!

Do the following characteristics describe your child?
Confident
Firm
Enjoys challenges
Problem-solver
Bold
Persistent
Strong willed
Takes charge
Determined
Competitive
Leader
Controlling (bossy)
Adventurous
Independent

If so, your child is a LION. Your child, like a lion, is a bold leader. The lion child shows good decision making skills and enjoys challenges and difficult assignments. Lions focus on the goal, and can often step on other people to reach it.

At Home:
Your little lion may amaze you with his/her independence and ability to take on challenges. On the other hand, your child may have difficulty submitting to your authority. This child may become very upset when they don’t get their way and, like a true lion, roar and rampage. While the lion may be an appropriate and effective leader for his/her siblings s/he may also act “bossy” and demanding.

Next time, I'll give some suggestions for the parent of a Lion.